STUDENT MINISTRY: Connecting With Our Students

Connecting with students is at the heart of a relationship-driven student ministry. Last time, we talked about the “why” of connecting with students and addressed their need to be loved, valued and poured into. This time, we want to speak into the “how.”

How do we connect with the teenagers in our student ministries and churches? Growing up in earlier generations, our experiences were significantly different than what they are experiencing now. That difference doesn’t change the need for us to connect, so what are some basic ways to engage in that process?

• Say “Hi!” Whether you are a part of the youth team or just a church member, it is important to speak in basic ways to the students at your church. Talk to them as you gather for worship. Don’t be intimidated by your youth. Think of them simply as your children or grandchildren. When you go out of the way to let them know they are seen, it can make a huge difference.

• Learn their name and interests, and remember them. Make a note in your journal. Jot it down on a bulletin. Whatever it takes, remember those things that interest the teenagers in your church. If you don’t know what it is, ask Google, Alexa or Siri. If none of those work, send me an email and we can figure it out together.

• Send them a note. In a day of emails and texts, there is nothing quite as exciting as snail mail. Let them know you are praying for them. Compliment something that is going on in their lives. Just share that you value them.

• Attend something in which they are involved. Sports, band concerts, plays and FFA competitions are just a few of the things you can attend. Showing up makes a difference. After an event is over and you see that student, there may be a look of surprise and delight that comes across their face. If they don’t respond, don’t let that dissuade you from doing it again.

Connecting with students will definitely take you out of your comfort zone, but it is worth it, no matter what your role is at the church. After the age of 21, the percentage drops drastically of those that accept Christ. It is vital that we take advantage of the years they are with us in our children’s and student ministries. Our students need caring adults from their faith family investing in their lives. Will you be one of those? Will you make the effort to connect with the young people in your church?