15 Lessons Learned From 40 Years of Ministry

By Thom Rainer

One of the members of the Church Answers community started a discussion that I absolutely loved. After some lengthy prefatory comments, he asked the community: “When things are tough and you feel like you have no more to give, what are some of the things that keep you moving forward?”

His post created a great discussion. I jumped in with the realization that I have been in vocational ministry for over 40 years. Those 40 years are divided almost into equal thirds: pastor, seminary dean and CEO of a Christian resource company. Two quick thoughts hit me — I am old, and I’ve learned a few lessons.

For sure, I’ve made many mistakes. I hope I’ve learned from these mistakes more than I have repeated them.

• The spiritual disciplines are not only acts of obedience for me, they are also necessary for my spiritual and emotional survival. When I am not praying, reading the Word or sharing the gospel, I am more likely to be discouraged and even despondent.

• An optimistic (hope and faith-based, of course) attitude seems to be a differentiating factor for many in ministry who persevere.

• True friends are priceless anywhere, and particularly in ministry.

• It’s even better that my sons and my wife are my best friends.

• Comparison to others in ministry is an emotional killer. Don’t do it.

• Laughter is a key trait to longevity.

• Apologize and ask for forgiveness quickly.

• Don’t be snarky and critical, especially on social media.

• Most crises are not true crises. Give it a week or so, and your perspective will change.

• Don’t make major decisions when you are tired.

• Don’t denigrate others. It is a sign of your own insecurities.

• Silence is often the best response.

• Love the church where God has you. The members are not perfect, but neither are you.